Monday, May 22, 2006

My new teaching assistants!

So many days I worry about how little I'm teaching my children. With Game Master, I had three and a half years with him before anyone else came along. He knew his colors, shapes, ABC's, could count to 20, could write his name and name the planets before he turned two! I just knew this child was a genius! (Don't get me wrong, I still think he is really smart!!)

I had so much time to spend with him. He was eager to learn, and I was a seriously ambitious instructor (attempting to achieve perfect parenthood!).

Now, with three children, things are VERY different! Candy Man is five years old and can add, but still sometimes skips 16, 17, 18, and 19 when counting. Pretty Princess is turning four soon, but doesn't know all her colors or shapes, much less how to write her name or count past 10! Sometimes it makes me feel like a failure as a mom!

And then I witness the older ones teaching the younger ones! I don't know why I haven't seen this more clearly before now! I am finally seeing the benefit of encouraging them to teach each other! When did the lightbulb go off? Saturday morning! I was suffering with my spring migraine and trying to get the children ready to go to the baseball games. I sent the younger two in to brush their teeth. Usually I help Pretty Princess (to get a good brush, and to avoid a mess). I thought, one morning won't hurt - as I rushed to cap strawberries for the after baseball party.

After a little bit, I went to check on them and found this! I was amazed! Not only was Candy Man doing a very thorough job, he was talking his way through it - telling her how to do it herself. PLUS - Pretty Princess very willingly obeyed his direction! He had her backed into the wall with her head back and mouth open wide. I hadn't asked him to do this. I'm still uncertain if it was his idea or hers, but it was very effective!

Then later, after the baseball games and party, on the way home (to bed with my headache for me!), I overheard Game Master quizzing Candy Man on his addition and subtraction in the back of the van. They were both surprisingly patient with one another and despite the fog I was in, I was able to see the light!

God has been trying to show me the high expectations that I have on myself as a mother! With Game Master, I didn't share my love of Jesus (since I didn't have it!) until he was almost three. The two younger ones were born through my prayers. At very young ages, they have a much stronger foundation of faith and knowledge of God than Game Master had. What is really important in life? This is the question I keep asking myself as a homeschooler! Is it ALL about math, spelling, and writing? NO! It's about character, integrity, individuality, faith. These are the things that I want my children to learn! This is why they are home with me. Anyone can teach them spelling and multiplication! Only God can show them the way to being the adult He wants them to be! I can rely on Him! Plus, I can rely on them!

"Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up." --Deuteronomy 11:19

"Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it." --Proverbs 22:6


C. H. Green said...

I learned to read at 4 years of age by doing worksheets my sister in kindergarten brought home. I think it's a big help to mama. Sometimes I wish I had more than one child...but I'm getting too old. LOL.

Jessica said...

Oh my gosh! We are pretty close...I live in VA! That is SO COOL!

I just found your blog...if you stop by mine anytime'll see my kids in the adventure of planting their very first vegetable garden!!! LOL
Hope that you can find the time to come by my blog site and please post a comment when you do...I like for those who visit my site to let me know they've been there :) (you will need to 1. register (FREE), on the right side of my site before you post...this is just to make your visits more personalized, etc. and then 2. click "Leave Your Comments" back at the regular part of my site on any comments that interests you, and then 3. "Post Reply" once the comments page comes up and type your comment).

I'll try to visit your site regularly and hope that you visit mine as well! :) God Bless! :)

Jennifer said...

Great stuff! I knew my letters but an older cousin taught me how to read. I was the only one in my kindgergarten class who could. My teacher treated me like I was a genius. Funny memories.

Faith said...

It will all come in time! You are doing a great job! They are just so darn cute!!!

Becky said...

This is a beautiful post. I, too, struggle with the feelings of not being able to teach them all they need to know. But I, too, will trust in the Lord to show me the way. Thanks for such a great post.

Peach said...

Great job, friend! I am learning the same thing as I go along. It develops so naturally sometimes that you wish you could bottle it. If I suggested they teach one another, it would backfire in a heart beat.

Thanks for sharing, and I love the photos--they are darling!

Reverberate58 said...

It's about character, integrity, individuality, faith.

Key things to survival in this world. I like how you put this. The fact that you found Candy Man did what he did shows that you are a good mom who has taught her children right! As they get older you will see these actions in the way they treat others around them. Thanks for the share.

meLanie said...

great post. i feel the same with my younger kids, but to see things through His eyes puts things into perspective. you have the most beautiful children!

TNChick said...

That Jessica has been hittin' everyone up with that copy and paste comment. Must be desperate.

Anyway - I loved this post. I can relate.

I got you added to the photo hunt blogroll (not sure if I told you).