Wednesday, May 14, 2008

You're Fired!

No, not me this time. I don't know what I'd have to do to get fired by my dad! Actually, he's usually begging me to do more work!

The Papa got fired from yet another job. I've lost count now. He's avoided calling us for a whole month now. I had a feeling that was why (history keeps repeating itself and I knew it wouldn't be long now). So it wasn't a huge shock or disappointment when I finally got the call from him. He's been without a job for a month. He starts a new one next week (he says). He won't tell me where though.

It will take the state a couple of months to find him again and for them to garnish his wages so that we'll get child support. That'll hurt.

He says it is my fault that he got fired. Apparently a friend of mine was eating in Papa's restaurant (he was the store manager). When Papa tried to say hello to this friend, the friend went off on Papa. The only thing he'd tell me that was said was... "When I heard that you were abusing your children, I wanted to bash your head in." Papa admitted that it was said calmly. But Papa became furious and was yelling and telling this friend off. A customer called in a complaint to the headquarters, and Papa was fired.

Papa is mad that I have been talking about him hurting the children. He's still in denial about what he did. He's not really denying it anymore, but he's not admitting to it either. He feels like us going to court and the whole ordeal is nobody's business.

Oh well. That was my decision to talk to friends and ask for help and prayers. I didn't do anything wrong. And I won't take responsibility for him losing his job either. I'm certain there is more to it than just this one instance anyway.
I don't know who the friend was who did this. But if you are him, thank you. You stood up and honored me and my children. Even Papa said you did it in a calm and respectful manner. Good for you!
He told me about another friend who ran into him in Cracker Barrel while he was eating with his new wife. She cornered him by the bathrooms and accused him of cheating on me. She didn't know that we'd divorced. I thank that friend too (don't know who?). We should be quick to hold others accountable in their marriages!
I don't know who these people are, but I am thankful for them. I know it must be hard. But they are standing up for their beliefs and for me and my children! I appreciate that!
I recently ran into a man who'd I'd been friends with him and his wife. He has cheated on her and left her and married the new woman, leaving his wife and child out of the picture. I froze. I didn't know what to say to him. I wish I had had the nerve to tell him how I felt, to tell him what me and the kids have been through and what he is doing to his wife and son. But I didn't. Instead I just said hi.
I am thankful for you, my friends - whoever you are!


Leeann M. Samples said...

Girl - I am just not believing this but as we know - everything has a purpose! You do have great friends and many people who love you and your family!! We do!
Love and hugs,
LA :)

Jennifer said...

I've wondered many times what I would say to Papa if I were to run into him. I don't think I would be brave enough to confront him. I wish I was. I would definitely hide and try to avoid it at all costs. I'm glad those friends did stick up for you. It makes me sad that he hasn't changed, not surprised, but sad.